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Being Strong

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I’ve been giving a lot of thought to the word “strong” lately. What does that actually mean? How can I use this word to help myself, or others? How can I help myself live a more abundant and meaningful life? Can I, me, one person, ACTUALLY help others along the way, too? These are all big topics, and thoughts, but I know that the answer is yes to every one of these. The only hard part is, it takes work. It takes work to be strong. It takes work to be independent, to give everything you have every day. It takes a lot of work.

So with all these thoughts, I’ve come up with my own answers on what “being strong” means to me.

Being strong isn’t just about going to the gym, and putting in work everyday. Sure, that has something to do with it, but that’s not what it’s all about. Here are some ways in which “being strong” has more meanings.

I got up when I didn’t want to. I might not have felt good, I might have been tired, sore, sleepy, depressed. But I did it. I got up, and I put my clothes on, and I’m conquering the day. That’s being strong.

I stood up for myself. I didn’t let my boss, friend, family, or co-worker speak to me in a manner that I didn’t like. I didn’t feel used or neglected. I stood my ground, said what I believe, and I did it with all the integrity, and grit I could. I wasn’t a pushover today. I stuck to the things I believe in, and I didn’t take no for an answer. That’s being strong.

I remembered what it’s like to not give up. I kept going today. If that means going to the gym when I didn’t want to, or leaving the house, or going to work, or doing whatever it took to make sure I am doing the best I can for me. I did it. I did it when I didn’t want to, and I conquered the shit out of it! That’s being strong.

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I lifted someone else up. I decided that It’s not always all about me. It can be about other people, too. I supported a friend, coworker, spouse. I supported their dreams, wishes, thoughts. I helped motivate someone to do something they didn’t think they could. I am a team player. I set my views aside to help someone else. That’s being strong.

I surround myself with positive, like-minded people. I decided I didn’t want to live in the negative, anymore. I want to be happy, be positive, be inspiring. I want to live MY LIFE to the fullest. Whatever that means to me. I want to give my husband, and my child the best parts of me that I can. No matter what it takes. If that means going “out with the old” and “in with the new” I will do it. That’s being strong.

So you see, my friends. It’s really not about what you look like. What you wear. How your hair is done. How much money you have, the kind of car you drive, or who you are keeping up with or not. It’s about what is truly INSIDE of you that counts. Those are the things that you need to look inside of yourself, dig deep, and find. Sure, it might hurt to come up with the answers, sometimes. It might be scary as hell to do (it was for me) but I can promise it will be worth it in the end.

That’s being strong.

What’s your strong? What does being strong mean to you?

Leave some love!

 

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Traveling with Toddler-Must Have

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I’m sure you know by now, but Jamie is a year old! I still can’t believe it. We have had so many experiences in the last year, I can’t imagine what the years to come will have in store for us.

The first time I traveled with Jamie by plan, she was 4 months old. Luckily, I had my dad with me on our flight to Virginia, and we flew Southwest Airlines and if you haven’t ever flown with them, with a child, it was a great experience. They were very helpful. The second time we traveled together was 4 months later, and we went back to Virginia. Jamie was almost 8 months old, and I was traveling by myself. Now, here we are again, a year old “toddler” and I traveling to Indiana. We made it successful, on a different airline too. After all of this I want to share some tips and tricks that I believe have helped along the way.

Distractions. Bring lots of distractions for your children. I’ve been lucky enough that all of the flights I’ve been on with Jamie have been 2-3 hours at the most. I know when we are at home, she plays with something and is ready to move onto something else within 10-15 minutes. I try to pack enough distractions for her to enjoy for the duration of our flight. I download apps on my iPad, and have some interactive toys as well.

Snacks. I can honestly thank my Sister-in-law for this one. She traveled with her youngest right before I had Jamie and she was by herself. She is ALWAYS good about having snacks for her children, and on a flight is no exception to this rule. When I traveled, I made sure I had enough different snacks, I probably could have fed everyone on the plane. It worked. When Jamie was hungry or bored, snacks saved the day!

Milk/Water. I’m still nursing, but I also had a cup of milk, and water for Jamie for on the plane, and in the airports. Security will let you through with those items for a small child, which is great!

Blankets, extra clothes for you, and child. Seriously. YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT CAN HAPPEN! I’ve had spit up on me, a blow out on the airplane, lost socks, you name it, I think it’s happened. If you don’t want to pack extra clothes for yourself, at least bring an extra shirt or something to cover up with. The blankets serve as a nursing shield, or you can help cover them if you’re flying during nap time.

Stroller. If you are traveling solo, the stroller is great to have. It just makes life easier. All airlines will let you gate check the strollers, and it’s ready for you to grab once you get off the plane. I wouldn’t leave home without our stroller when I’m traveling. I didn’t have one the first time, but thankfully, my dad was with me. Now – even if I had help of someone else, I would still bring the stroller.

This is my must have list for traveling solo with a child. Most of all, just remember to have fun, know that things happen, and be polite to the people along the way. It will get your farther. Don’t forget your diapers and wipes, and remember to breathe!!

Do you have something to add to this list? Let me know!

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** Links to some of my favorite items**

Umbrella Stroller

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12 things I’ve learned in the first year as Mom

I’m still in awe that you are a year old. How in the heck has this past year gone by so quickly? I remember it like it was yesterday, your dad and I thought we were going to a football game, and about 8 hours later, you were born. ( See that post HERE )

It’s easy to say this has been the best year of my life. This has also been a year of reflecting, learning, growing, and developing for myself, too. Watching you grow and learn isn’t the only thing we do. We grow and learn right along with you.

So, in honor of your first birthday, I want to give you 12 things that I’ve learned in this first year.

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  1. Everything you thought you “would” or “wouldn’t” do, throw it out the window. – Remember when you thought you wouldn’t drive around in the car to get your child to sleep? Remember when you said you wouldn’t give into letting her/him have the phone? The Television? Yeah. Go ahead and throw it all out the window. Take bits and pieces of what you want, or don’t want to do, and make it your own.
  2. You seriously have no idea what you are doing. – You have read all the books, you have researched it all on the internet. You think you are going to be prepped, ready, and you have loads of information just at your disposal. Let’s also remember, there is no handbook. So while all those things are useful, they have NOTHING to do with your child, family, or life. Take bits and pieces of everything you’ve read, learned, or researched, and make it your own.
  3. Shop all the diapers, and figure out what is best for you. – Don’t just think that one brand is going to be better than another. Sure, they might be for one child, or family, but for your child? NOPE! What works for one, doesn’t always work for another. Try them all, and see for yourself.
  4. Eat the peanut butter. – Let your child experiment with foods. Give them anything and everything you can while they are young. If they don’t like it now, they might like it tomorrow. Eggs, peanut butter, lunch meat, chicken, pork. Whatever we are having for dinner, you are usually eating too. Baby foods are ok, but let’s face it, who really wants to eat that stuff?
  5. Call your parents, and in-laws often. They appreciate it more than you know. – It is just as important for your families to see and hear about different growth and developmental stages as it is for you to see them for yourself. Call them. Send pictures. Give updates. They really do appreciate it.
  6. Smile. Laugh. Cry. – It’s ok to roll with the punches. Remember when I said that you have no idea what you’re doing? Sometimes you get frustrated. Sometimes you think you’re a failure. Sometimes the realization of having no idea what you are doing hits you. It’s ok to smile. It’s ok to cry. It’s also ok to laugh. Remember, “this too shall pass.” Also remember, “The days are long, but the years are short.”-Gretchen Rubin
  7. What really is sleep training? – THIS. IS. A. HOT. TOPIC. I can honestly tell you I have NO IDEA what works or doesn’t here. I can tell you that your dad and I have been blessed with a good sleeper, for the most part. It really didn’t take me long to transition you into sleeping all night once I tried it. I will thank all the heavens and angels above for that.
  8. FaceTime is just as important. – Use the technology you have for good. Keep in touch with your family. Again, they really do appreciate it.
  9. Spend time outdoors. – We live in Texas. This summer has been crazy hot for a baby. But going outside even for just a few minutes a day has helped tremendously. Babies seem to really love the outdoors, and it makes me feel less like a prisoner in my own house. Play outside. It’s ok to get dirty. You will get a bath, I promise!
  10. Put the phone down. – This is hard for me, too. I work from home, so I need to use my phone during the day. But I’m also a mom, and I don’t want to miss things. Spending time with my family is also important. Having some disconnect time is good for the soul. It’s good for your relationships, too.
  11. Take lots of pictures. – Remember that time when my phone was filled with nothing but pictures of my animals? Fast forward a year, and now we have pictures of the animals with the baby. TAKE THE PICTURES! They are amazing for looking back, and for remembering the sweet times                                                                               **This can be good, and bad for baby fever! 😉 **
  12. This  IS the best time of your life. – Seriously though, I can’t think of another time in my life that I can say has been the best time. Sure, the day I married your dad was AMAZING. Relocating, vacations, dinners, parties, anniversaries. They have all been truly spectacular, but this, THIS is really the BEST time in our life.

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Do you have any insight to add to the list? What are some things you learned in the first year of your child’s life?

**Link to our amazing photographer HERE 

 

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It’s a FIRST Birthday PARTY!

Where oh where has this last year gone? I remember feeling you growing and kicking from the inside. Now you are crawling, standing, talking, laughing and learning every day. So, here we are, planning your first birthday. That is just surreal to me.

My husband and I are not your average party planners. We like to celebrate. We like to have fun. We LOVE our family and friends. We LOVE entertaining. (Well, I love entertaining, but thankfully, my husband just goes along with it.!)

So, for Jamie’s first birthday, we threw a party! This 1st birthday will be one for the books. For us at least! This is not your conventional type of party. Sure, there will be a smash cake, cookies, some snacks. But there will also be a Keg of Beer! Hence our theme – Cookies, and Keg Birthday. I mean, let’s be honest here. Who is the first year of life celebration for, anyways?!

I came up with this theme while trying to debate on whether or not we were really going to throw a party for Jamie’s first birthday. Seriously though, she’s not going to remember. We will have pictures to show her, but other than that, she won’t know.

So here are the details of her party! – 

Since our family and friends are all scattered throughout the states, I opted for a non traditional Facebook invite. Also, because my husband’s new job gives him a long weekend off every other weekend, we had to celebrate a week early. Her actual birthday isn’t until the 24th. Don’t worry, I’ll have another blog all about  that, I’m sure! 

 

My mom (who is one of the best bakers I know) made these cookies, and she and I decorated them before the party! Aren’t they cute?! Beer mugs and # 1. 


I’m not your type of parent who thinks I need to spend a lot of money on a fancy cake. They are cute, but right now I don’t see the need. So I found this awesome mold at Hobby Lobby, and decided I would make Jamie’s smash cake! She obviously didn’t mind one bit! 


Yes, we REALLY did have a keg.. Again, this party is really for us!


I did get a Pinata, really for picture purposes for Jamie’s first birthday pictures, but it was fun to have that day, as well!

So, here it is! Jamie’s Cookies and Keg first Birthday party! A lot of fun had by all.


What was a favorite party that you put together for or with your family, friends, or children? Leave it in the Comments! 
 

 

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Positive Vibes

“Motherhood is a choice you make everyday, to put someone else’s happiness and well-being ahead of your own, to teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when you’re not sure what the right thing is…and to forgive yourself, over and over again, for doing everything wrong.” ―Donna Ball

I’m a mom. I’m a wife. I’m a real estate agent. I’m a consultant. I’m a blogger. BLOGGER. What does that mean? What the hell was I really getting myself into when I started this journey? Honestly, some days I feel like this is just a public diary/journal if you will. But I’m still here, telling you what is going on in my life. The only difference is my shit isn’t really sugar-coated. It just is.

With that said, I’m going to be honest here. Lately I’ve been pretty hard on myself. Sure, I’ve lost my baby weight, but it just doesn’t seem like the scale is really moving any more than what I really thought it was going to. *Insert new mom 6 pack by now.* Whatever. we all go through these types of things in our lives I’m sure, and it’s just how we respond to them that makes us develop and become stronger people, right?!

Well, not me. I’ve been hard. I’ve been mean. I’ve been critical on myself, and I wasn’t sure how I was going to shake it. I mean, I go to the gym. I eat right, I don’t smoke, I drink on occasion  or nightly, but still. That’s all my vices. Come on gym Gods, let’s work together here…

HOWEVER, it wasn’t until someone reached out to me on Instagram and asked to use one of my pictures, and comments for world breastfeeding week that I really started thinking about myself, and putting my life in a different perspective. (Read Article HERE )

Here’s the thing. I may not be where I am in weight, height, color, etc etc etc, BUT, I am a mother. I am a breastfeeding mother. I am doing something for my child, that’s taking part of me to help take care of her. Really – it doesn’t even matter. I’m taking care of a life. I’m watching her, feeding her, playing with her, growing and learning with her. My life is devoted to her and my family. When I stop and think about it, and put it out there, it really doesn’t sound so bad, now does it?

So moms. All you mom’s out there. If you are feeling, or have felt the same way as I have at some point in time. DON’T. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Be HAPPY. Be PROUD. Be CONFIDENT in the things that you are doing and have done for your family. You know why? Because you really are a BADASS. And you deserve for someone to tell you that. BELIEVE IT!

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THANK YOU. Thank you to all you other women out there. Bloggers, Mothers, Sisters, Wives, and just regular BADASS women out there. We are a tribe, and we need to stick together and keep helping each other up. We are worth it!!

** ARTICLE HERE! **

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*NEW* Toy Box!

It’s been a while. To say the least, we’ve been busy. We’ve been undergoing a lot of changes here lately, and life have been HECTIC! That’s a positive thing though, right? Change is good, right? YES! We like change around our house, but sometimes that means we have to take a step back from the other things we enjoy doing, and figure out one stop before we move on to the next.

Thus, here we are again! Jamie is now 10 months old, crawling, babbling, eating solid foods, pulling herself up and cruising furniture, and fighting every nap she possibly can! I wouldn’t trade it for the world, though. She is a blessing to our little family, and I truthfully could not think of a better job to have. Being her mom is such a wonderful experience. I truly am lucky God blessed me with the joy of motherhood.

Around our house, I try to repurpose things, or sell them if we can’t find another spot of them. With that said, I had this old hamper in my closet for the longest time, and I didn’t know exactly what to do with it. I thought I might use it in Jamie’s room eventually, but until then, It just sat in my closet, collecting bags, shoes, and whatever else I needed to throw in there for the time being. Needless to say, it was ON MY NERVES!

Well, we’ve transitioned my office, to also be a playroom. It’s nice because I am able to work on the computer and Jamie can play. It’s been a positive transition so far, and I only hope that it continues on this way. While making this transition though, all of the toys were just thrown here and there on the floor, with no rhyme or reason. That brings me to my new idea. Why don’t I use that old hamper and make it into a toy holder! It was so easy, it cost around $8.00, and I’m really happy with the outcome!



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  1. Old hamper
  2. Burlap (bought at Wal-Mart, 2 rolls for about $8.00)
  3. Hot Glue
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What I did:

We used the hot glue gun for adhesive for the burlap, and simply wrapped the burlap around the hamper! I also threw in an old bath towel that I needed to throw away and put it on the bottom of the hamper. That’s really just an option, whether you want to or not.

Seriously! It was that easy! I didn’t over think this, as I’m very capable of doing, and really, I think it turned out great for what we are going to use it for! In the future, I can use it in Jamie’s room too, if we want! Also, right now it’s perfect for her because she’s going to pull herself up on it, and if she falls, it won’t hurt her. DOUBLE WIN!

What do you think? What kind of things have you repurposed that have been really easy too? I would love to hear of more ideas for future projects!

Enjoy!

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Fab Margarita Friday!

Just because I’ve been making some big changes in my life, and really trying to focus on my overall health and fitness, doesn’t mean I can’t have a little fun, right? After all, it’s all about balance, and how to balance everything you want in your lifestyle. IF you ever want to know anything about it, it’s that I’m all about experiencing life to the fullest, and having a lot of fun while doing so. I enjoy being healthy, and working on my fitness (thank you Fergi for that) but I also enjoy kicking back with family and friends, and having a drink or 2.

So a nice friend of mine told me about this awesome, ALL NATURAL margarita, I knew I had to try it for myself. So I did what any normal American person would do and I took to the inter webs to try to find the best, easiest recipe I could find. That’s when I came across this awesome lady – Averie Cooks and made this SUPER EASY margarita recipe. See below :

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You guys! This was seriously the easiest and best homemade margarita’s that I’ve ever had! you can go to her website, and check it out (Link to website above) but seriously it’s so easy. Even my husband approved, and he approves of pretty much no website recipe.

Here are the instructions for you to check out:

All you need is limes, agave nectar, tequila, ice and water. You Juice the limes – I used about 5 to make 2 drinks (roughly), then you add 1 to 2 shots of agave nectar, 2-4 shots of tequila (depending on how strong you want them, and for how many people you are making), 1-2 shots of water, and ice. Mix that all together with the lime juice, and serve! THAT’S IT!

There are several other recipes that she has on her site that look really fun to try. I know I’ll be going back for more shortly, but seriously you guys, you need to try this. It’s easy, natural, refreshing for summer, and fun to make!

Give it a try, tell me how you like it!

What are your favorite drinks to make for summer?

Any other all natural recipes you care to share so I can try?

HAVE A FAB FRIDAY, EVERYONE!!

*All content is from my own ideas and opinions, and to get to Averie Cooks website please click Here

* Picture was taken from Averie Cooks website on how to make margarita’s