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Being Strong

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I’ve been giving a lot of thought to the word “strong” lately. What does that actually mean? How can I use this word to help myself, or others? How can I help myself live a more abundant and meaningful life? Can I, me, one person, ACTUALLY help others along the way, too? These are all big topics, and thoughts, but I know that the answer is yes to every one of these. The only hard part is, it takes work. It takes work to be strong. It takes work to be independent, to give everything you have every day. It takes a lot of work.

So with all these thoughts, I’ve come up with my own answers on what “being strong” means to me.

Being strong isn’t just about going to the gym, and putting in work everyday. Sure, that has something to do with it, but that’s not what it’s all about. Here are some ways in which “being strong” has more meanings.

I got up when I didn’t want to. I might not have felt good, I might have been tired, sore, sleepy, depressed. But I did it. I got up, and I put my clothes on, and I’m conquering the day. That’s being strong.

I stood up for myself. I didn’t let my boss, friend, family, or co-worker speak to me in a manner that I didn’t like. I didn’t feel used or neglected. I stood my ground, said what I believe, and I did it with all the integrity, and grit I could. I wasn’t a pushover today. I stuck to the things I believe in, and I didn’t take no for an answer. That’s being strong.

I remembered what it’s like to not give up. I kept going today. If that means going to the gym when I didn’t want to, or leaving the house, or going to work, or doing whatever it took to make sure I am doing the best I can for me. I did it. I did it when I didn’t want to, and I conquered the shit out of it! That’s being strong.

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I lifted someone else up. I decided that It’s not always all about me. It can be about other people, too. I supported a friend, coworker, spouse. I supported their dreams, wishes, thoughts. I helped motivate someone to do something they didn’t think they could. I am a team player. I set my views aside to help someone else. That’s being strong.

I surround myself with positive, like-minded people. I decided I didn’t want to live in the negative, anymore. I want to be happy, be positive, be inspiring. I want to live MY LIFE to the fullest. Whatever that means to me. I want to give my husband, and my child the best parts of me that I can. No matter what it takes. If that means going “out with the old” and “in with the new” I will do it. That’s being strong.

So you see, my friends. It’s really not about what you look like. What you wear. How your hair is done. How much money you have, the kind of car you drive, or who you are keeping up with or not. It’s about what is truly INSIDE of you that counts. Those are the things that you need to look inside of yourself, dig deep, and find. Sure, it might hurt to come up with the answers, sometimes. It might be scary as hell to do (it was for me) but I can promise it will be worth it in the end.

That’s being strong.

What’s your strong? What does being strong mean to you?

Leave some love!

 

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An Ode to Mom – My first Mother’s Day

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As Mother’s Day is drawing near, I can’t help but think about how lucky I am to be a mom. I’m celebrating my very first Mother’s Day this year, and while I’m so excited, and honored that I can now be a part of this amazing group of women I know, love and respect, I also want to reflect on the many lessons I’ve learned in just this short period of time. So here it is, an Ode to my mom – and all the mom’s out there, on Mother’s Day!

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Mom,

I just want to tell you – I get it now. While I might not get all of it at this point, I do somewhat understand what it’s like to be a mom. I always wondered if I would hear myself say those words, and now I’m excited and honored to be a part of this amazing journey we call Motherhood.

Remember all those sleepless nights? I get it now. I understand the sacrifice that you made for myself, and my siblings, working, providing for, and making sure that we were nurtured in the best way that you could. You did all these things while staying strong, and trying to keep a smile on your face at all times.

Remember all those missed, or cold meals you had? I get it now. There are times when you would have rather been entertaining your friends and family at gatherings, or times when you were hungry, but we needed you more. You went without those meals, or ate them later, because you love us, and you knew that these times would also pass. You smiled, and rolled with the punches, and never let it get the best of you.

Remember being happy that we were growing and developing, but sad at the same time? I get it now. You were so excited that we were growing, and learning new things, but at the same time, your babies, your children were growing up into their own people, creating their own personalities, and becoming the independent people that we are today. You smiled, laughed, and cried with us all. And did it in the most gracious and loving ways.

Remember thinking that this is the hardest, most tiring, most stressful, but most rewarding job of all time? I get it now. Being a Mother is the hardest, most tiring, stressful job I’ve ever had, and ever witnessed you do. You did it the best way that you knew how, and you did it with a smile on your face. You showed up when it seemed everyone else was walking out, and you have always been by our sides.

Remember that word you always used – Balance? I get it now. I know that you had to balance a job, family, home, and all the other tasks that you took on, all while making sure that we were safe and taken care of. You did it, and you were always there for games, practices, and whatever else we were a part of. You did all of these things, and you did them all with the highest level of integrity, and devotion, daily.

So mom, I just want you to know, after all these years. Thank you. Thank you for being one of the best role models that you could be. Thank you for teaching me valuable lessons on how to be the best mom that I can be. Thank you for sticking by my side, and thank you for being so loving, nurturing, and understanding.

Oh, and mom. I get it now.

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Thirsty Thursday – Lee Harvey Edition

HAPPY THURSDAY, EVERYONE! I’m so ready for this upcoming weekend, I can’t even stand myself. It’s been a week for the books, that’s for sure. I can’t complain though, it’s been a busy, tiring, fun-filled week. This weekend is also Easter, and I’m happy to be celebrating another first holiday with my little family. Those are the best things to look forward to. Oh, the joys of being an adult, and a parent!

So, here I am, sipping on my wine, ready for next week already, and thinking about some of the best places to tell you all about. This one comes because I can’t wait to go back! We have a friend coming into town next week, and when he asked us to take him to Lee Harvey’s, I couldn’t even begin to tell you how happy I was about this! So, without further ado, here is this weeks “Thirsty Thursday” – Lee Harvey Edition!

A small little bar in South Dallas that was made from a house, this place doesn’t even boast small. Honestly, when you walk in the doors it feels like home, maybe a little home from the 80s, but it still feels like home. Drink specials every night from 3-7, and seriously, who doesn’t like a place that makes their own pickles?!

They have bands that play on the weekends, they have this super kick ass outdoor area that you can bring your dogs too if you want. Picnic benches, and even fire pits surround the outside. Makes you never want to leave. Their motto, which I personally LOVE is “a little friendly dive bar that welcomes everyone.” I can’t say enough good things about this place, but I’ll let you check out their webpage for yourself  Here

I’ve even added some pictures of this joint, just so you can get a feel of what I’m talking about.

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Do these pictures not make you want to hang out there, like ALL THE TIME?! If you don’t believe me, you should try it for yourself. Also, if you want to join their mailing list, so you can see when the next event or concert is, just go Here .

So that’s all I have for now, friends!

Have a wonderful night, and BOTTOMS UP!

Cheers!

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Girls and Bows

Before my daughter was born, I swore I wouldn’t be one of those parents that put all those crazy bows on my child.  I don’t know, I’m just not into that fashion trend. We tend to keep things a little more light and airy around our house, and in our wardrobe. So, this sweet friend of mine, who happens to own a bow boutique sent me 2 of her handmade bows. Ya’ll, I’m here to tell you they are GREAT!

First of all, Jamie has been blessed with my small head. That’s a blessing and a curse. The trouble is that no headband really seems to fit her. I have a few that work, but most of them are too big. But the bows from 2ndavenueboutique work great. The elastic on these headbands are PERFECT! They aren’t too snug, nor are they too big. When she moves, they seem to move right with her.

Melissa-the owner of 2ndavenue boutique can do pretty much anything too! As you know, our family is a Clemson Tiger family. (National Champs… WHAT, WHAT!!) Knowing that, Melissa made the CUTEST headband for Jamie! It’s a little bigger than I would have picked out for her, but OH MY GOODNESS, it’s still perfect!


Obviously Jamie loves this bow too. Can’t you tell from her expression?!

There are so many other options that Melissa can do. She’s made bow ties for the men, even a tutu for a wedding! Whatever you can dream of, I’m sure that she can do it. The sky’s the limit with this boutique!


Are these not perfect?! And if you really still don’t believe that she can do anything and everything, look at this cute puppy!


So do me a favor, my family and friends. Go Here and check out her etsy shop! You won’t be sorry that you did. I promise you, I’m not!

Happy shopping, friends! 🙂

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Lady GaGa’s newest fan

Did you all watch the Superbowl? Good game, huh? I mean, has it ever gone into overtime? I think I read an article that mentioned that this was the first game ever to go into overtime! WOW! But let’s get down to business and talk about the most important part of the game. THE HALFTIME SHOW! Ever since that fateful evening when Janet Jackson bared her all to us, and accidentally shows a nipple, we wait for something to go wrong during every halftime show from this point on. Am I right?! Well I’m here to tell you that Lady GaGa’s performance was nothing short of stellar, and why I am now one of her newest fans!

First of all, that performance was AMAZING! I didn’t think there was one issue with it, and seriously she went over the top, and even jumped from the top of the damn stadium. IMPRESSIVE! She’s always been kind of out there (cue the meat suit and cigarette sunglasses) but her outfit was on point, hair and makeup looked good, and everything just flowed.

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What gets me with this performance is while I was watching it I actually made mention to our group that someone, SOMEWHERE will mention her “pooch” if you will, and call it a gut. MAN! These tabloids, and media never disappoint! Are you people seriously calling what she has a gut? For real?

My sister-in-law said it right when she posted “what is the message we are sending to our daughters?” These girls are our future. Why do we expect these celebrities to be a certain shape, size, and color?

We scrutinize Tom Brady for kissing his dad on the lips, and now we are complaining about Lady GaGa’s stomach? Did you not just watch a game where 2 teams played their heart and soul out, and it went into OVERTIME! for the first time, ever? And that’s all we can talk about?

Well- let me tell you why I’m now one of this woman’s newest followers. This post.lady_gaga_sur_instagram

This post here, is just as amazing as she is. I’m so happy that he is proud of her body, and herself. I’m so happy how confident she is. I’m also happy that she mentioned she wants the rest of us females to be as confident. I know for sure that I pray that my daughter will be every bit as confident and happy with herself, and her body when she is old enough to realize she has a body!

So THANK YOU, Lady GaGa- for setting a good example for me, my daughter, and the rest of us REAL women out there!

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Crib Life

I did it. I finally got up the strength to move our daughter into her own room. If you ask my husband, he says things are going GREAT! Me, on the other hand, I’m still having a hard time with it, but I know this is a process, and we will get better as we go.

First of all, I’m just going to go on record to say GET A MONITOR! A VIDEO MONITOR! I don’t think I would have moved Jamie at all if we hadn’t gotten a monitor. Even though I know it was time because, well, her Rock and Play was becoming a hazard to sleep in. We found a good deal on a Summer Infant baby monitor, and bought it. I also have to take a second to say their customer service is PHENOMENAL! For some reason our device won’t let us connect to the App on the phone. I called and without any questions asked they are sending a new one! AMAZING! I didn’t even have to argue with anyone. Just called and told them what was happening. That makes this momma VERY proud!

The first night was a Friday. Mommy breakdown #1. I really had some serious anxiety about this whole crib thing. I mean, my baby is growing up. She’s moving into her own room! My husband went hunting that evening with some friends, and Jamie fell asleep rather early. I thought she might wake up again before “actually” going to sleep, but she didn’t. She ended up getting up 3 times that night. Also on Friday Jamie learned a new party trick. She started rolling over both ways. I thought this was an awesome trick, and couldn’t have come at a better time! One of the things I quickly realized was that the worst part about this whole crib situation is walking across the house to get her, nurse, and put her back in her crib. Then I have to walk back to our room and continue on with my sleeping. When your child gets  up 3 times during a night, that’s kind of tough. I was pretty tired on Saturday. But we did it again Saturday night, and she got up 3 times again. The final time, I brought her into our room for the morning nursing session. We are now on night 3- Sunday. She only woke up 1 time!! That would have been great if mommy didn’t have a cold of some sort and was up and down myself all night.

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All in all, I think we are doing a good job. I know this transition won’t be the easiest at times, but I know it’s needed. She needs to be in her own room. It’s time. I’m sure she is happier too! Really, in hindsight, maybe I shouldn’t have waited so long. Hey- there’s always next time, right?!

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Positive Lifestyle

People that know me, and even people that maybe have just met me could tell you that I’m a generally positive person. Therefore, I will never understand how people can always be so negative all the time. It will never make sense to me. Thus, I have complied a list of ways in which I try to live, in hopes they help someone in this world become more positive.

Starting your day with a smile. Haven’t you ever watched Annie? “You’re never fully dressed without a smile.” They were right,you know. The reason behind this is because if you start with a smile, you will think positive thoughts for the rest of the day. It’s harder to be negative when you have a smile on your face. Even when I’m mad, I still usually smile. It’s just what I do. I make jokes about almost everything, and this is why!

Count your blessings, in the morning. Why? Because if you can reflect and be thankful for the things, life, people, you have in the morning, you probably won’t be focusing on the negative things, or it’s harder to see. I use mornings to read a scripture passage, and reflect on how great I feel like the things in my life are. I see my daughter, sing her a song every morning. The same one. Good morning beautiful. She smiles, my heart melts, we repeat. EVERY. SINGLE. MORNING.

Compliment someone or something everyday. Do you know how you feel when someone you know, or even a complete strange compliments your hair, makeup, clothes, or anything about you in general? It makes me feel warm and cozy, or just like I’ve really done something good with myself. It is a true ego booster- if you will. Have you tried to compliment someone or something every single day, for a week? It’s amazing how people will react to you when you do this. It’s also amazing how you begin to feel once you light up someone’s eyes, or make them smile. It can be contagious.

Say I love you. You don’t have to have a partner to do this with. Family, friends? There has to be someone you love out there. Don’t be afraid to tell them. Tell them at least once a day. Give them reassurance that you love, support, and honor them being in your life. It’s pretty cool to love, and to feel loved. Show it. Share it. Live it!

Walk, Run, Exercise. I’m going to quote a favorite movie of mine. Legally Blonde. Yep, I went there. Well- Reese Whiterspoon had a really good point when she said that “Exercise creates endorphins, endorphins make you happy, and happy people don’t kill their husbands.” All I’m saying is that even spending a few minutes outside walking your street, getting some fresh air and vitamin D can make a huge impact on your day. I always think it’s so cool the way I feel once I crushed a workout. I feel like a million dollars. Like I’m a total badass and I can conquer the world. I feel good being outside. I feel good walking, running, biking. Whatever the case is. Try something to make yourself a little more active. You’ll be happy you did. Hell, you might lose a pound or 2 in the process, and if you’re like me, you’ll be even happier you did!

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I truly hopes this helps someone out there. Maybe you don’t know how to be positive. Heck, maybe you don’t realize that you are being a “Negative Nancy” out in this great world of ours. At any rate- maybe this will give you an idea to try something new.

Take the positivity pledge, I know I have!

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